As depicted in songs, poems, movies and photographs, finding true love is a one in a million chance, and in this very random world, finding the one that whom you would spend the rest of your life is indeed a very magical and wonderful feeling. Surely, the road to this true love is a bumpy one – you would be able to experience lots of heartaches, but when your guy shows these signs, then you would know that he thinks of you as his true love.If your guy has showed these signs, then, maybe, perhaps just a little bit, you could imagine what it would your wedding like. However, don’t go overboard. Enjoy these moments when your guy has showed these signs. Trust me, he won’t be giving you these obvious hints, if he don’t mean it.
The festival for showing your love and affection to all your fellow beings is Valentine day. Off late this mutual showing of love and care has shrunk its precincts and the people in the boundaries are just the love birds.The Valentine day is celebrated more enthusiastically by the younger ones who either is in love or is in hunt for one. This day is considered by everyone as the day for proposing, accepting the long pending love proposals.The shops flutter full of gift ranging from a few dimes to unimaginable and they all do business briskly as the love birds are in no mood to not express their love through the materialistic way.But this Valentine day i.e on 14th February 2011, be a bit more cautious in dealing with your Valentine or Valentine to be. The reason is astrological as no planet up there is in a mood to shower its blessing.Mars who signifies for the love-energy although is in its sign of exaltation, is deep combust. That means the aggression with which you may approach the Valentine may back fire, your actions could be taken otherwise. Mercury which impart the knowledge to the native is also combust and this can result is choosing or proposing your valentine wrongly. The moon which signifies your mind is in association with a debilitated Ketu. The planet Saturn is also retrograde and moving in opposite direction.The Karaka or Signification of Love and passion, the planet Venus, is in association with a debilitated Rahu.Now if we try to make some scene of the above planetary position the revelation would be that this is not a very good period for all the people who are looking ahead to make a great day on the Valentines Day.
The association of Moon with Ketu which again is debilitated is the worst place for the moon to be in. But since moon remain in a sign for not more than two days the people out there can find some solace a day after the ‘D’ day.Now, what is to be done so that the affect of the above planetary position does not harm the native to a larger extent? Firstly be wise in choosing and proposing your valentine as the choice of your may not be good altogether. Take your time; restrict your self to mailing rather than presenting your self physically. Secondly if you are in to a relationship then there can be a possibility of loosing due to lewd action. Abstain from making lewd and sarcastic remarks as it may hurt to a greater extent that day.Thirdly have a yellow coloured thing preferably a flower associated with you on this day as this can ward you against the evils offered by the planetary position.
Every evening as dusk sets in, he sits in his rocking chair nursing a Scotch and listening to old Hindi film songs. The day I last saw him in Hyderabad, the strains of Mohammed Rafi’s Dekhi zamane ki yaari…bichchde sabhi baari-baari….impregnated the air.But, instead of the melancholia that drips from Guru Dutt’s sets in Kagaz ke Phool, there was a calm surrounding Jyotirmaya, a sense of peace and a day well spent. No broken heart here, just a man unwinding after a day at work…. His dinner is ready and waiting, his next choice out of a collection of 3000 movies in the DVD player, awaiting the click of a remote button. A book lies next to his bed in what seems to be exactly the position he left off reading it the night before. No female presence or kiddie clutter disturbs the even tenor of his existence.
Life is the way he loves it…Cut to another home in another city.Anuradha (not her real name) is a busy professional juggling career and home, handling a daughter singlehanded and loving it. Her bedroom is done up in soft, feminine colours and the books and music racks house just her choices. She savours her mornings and is extremely possessive about that time when, daughter sent off to school, she relaxes, looking at the trees outside her window, reflecting, reading the papers and sipping nimbupani. Mother and daughter have a mutually satisfactory routine and keep their weekends busy with movies and friends when they are not exploring the city. Ask her if she feels the lack of a male presence at home, and she laughs, “Male? What’s that?! No, seriously, where is the space for a male in this house or in my life? Why would I want someone to make an insidious entry into my life and uproot my very existence?” Point.It’s not an easy state to achieve, but once set in your routine and after you have settled life’s little matters and tied the loose ends, a single person can possibly lead a far more peaceful and satisfying life if he or she sets her mind to it than many married couples.
Yes of course, at times the heart may feel lonely and twinges of regret may make their presence felt, but on the whole a life where you are answerable largely to just yourself cannot be bad.How long can one keep looking for Mr Perfect or Ms Perfect? There has to come a time when you give up looking and settle down to what you have. And those who come to this conclusion early and start building a life for just themselves are the ones who, like Jyotirmaya and Anuradha, achieve a sense of peace and come to terms with single life. And soon there comes a time when they wrap life so securely and comfortably around themselves that there is no scope left for another human entering that space.It’s not a selfish or self-centred existence really; it’s just a full life that gets fuller each time these singles introduce yet another passion. The kind of passions that have to be put off by others whose spirits strive to reach beyond the usual responsibilities of life.
Let’s get this clear; it’s not a libertine view that these singles are propagating, nor are they flying against the institution of marriage. We are talking here of people who in the state of singlehood, decide to make the best of an existence that precariously straddles the line between a satisfied fullness and an unending search for an elusive companion. Having knit their lives into a pattern that keeps them busy, fruitfully occupied and happy, they are at peace with themselves. Friendships acquire a deeper meaning for them and they are ready to go out on a limb for a friend.One may well ask what about the need for companionship, sexual gratification or support in old age and illness? Jyotirmaya has an interesting answer for this. “These are three distinct needs that once segregated, provide an amazing clarity. Friends can provide you great companionship; I have seldom seen a couple who are great conversationalists or companions after some years of marriage! Sex can be disengaged from marriage surely in this day and age! As for looking after in sickness and old age, what guarantee that children would do the needful, or even that a spouse will outlast you?” Who can refute this logic?Add to that the fact that as multi-dimensional creatures we cannot hope to satisfy all our needs in just one person.
We have so many diverse needs and aspirations, that each one of us, if we are to be fully satisfied, needs a battery of friends and companions available to us. And a single person is free to pick and choose any, at any time.Movies, books, music, artistic pursuits, social work, parties, apart from your choice of profession – contemporary life offers a wide range of activities and indulgences that consume and stimulate you enough not to actually miss being part of a couple. However, beyond all this, there is still that very natural need to connect with another adult, to have someone you can use as a sounding board, share your thoughts and passions and plan holidays with. Same sex friend is the easiest answer, one that society too approves of. And yet, there is also the need to have companions of the opposite sex, or you somewhat lose out on one aspect, one important perspective of life.
Friends of the opposite sex are just as important as same sex companions. What’s wrong with that? Someone you can share some magical moments with and then retreat to the cocoon of your own satisfactory existence. It just helps complete the circle.Just because you are alone need never mean you are lonely. With a life so full with interests, friends, passions, there is no scope or time to get bored.